Sue E
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Post by Sue E on Nov 10, 2011 18:28:43 GMT -5
Thanks for your kind words Brandon. I suppose I count myself lucky that I had a 5 year relationship with someone else before I married my husband so I had some idea that it wasn't completely my fault and therefore my self esteem and confidence didn't get as eroded as it might have done. Now that I know it definitely wasn't me at fault, I feel so much better. I must admit, I don't really feel that I am married any more. I am Catholic so I could even apply for an annulment but I wouldn't do that because I have my children but I have been thinking ahead and when my girls are married. I want to change my surname. I've even thought of one. All these things are helping me to accept and distance myself so that it will be less painful when we separate. I'm not sure whether it is better to live a slow torture and get used to things or to be 'thrown over the side of the boat' when gay partners take off to explore their gay attractions. The only thing I am conscious of though is time passing by and me getting older before I can get on with my life.
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Post by vivian on Nov 10, 2011 19:56:39 GMT -5
I just wanted to pop in tell all if you how absolutely awesome you all are.
Do any of you even realize how strong you are? What charachter you exhibit and integrity you guys all possess- your partners don't even know what they had- but they will some day.
My partner was a psychopath.
I will get in to my story more with all of you here in a day or two.
I am mortified to tell you when we met he was married. I was no homewrecker but I got my karma when I got involved with him.
I will be back to post it.
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Post by Damon on Nov 10, 2011 20:58:00 GMT -5
Vivian, it's great to have you on the board and we would love to hear your story. It's interesting that you mention karma because I recall back when this first happened, wondering what I had done that was so bad that karma felt the need to destroy my family in this way. Now though, just 15 months after she walked out of our lives, things are great for me. I was just saying the other day to a friend of mine that I figured that karma was sneaking around in the dark alleys, like a thief in the night, just waiting to pounce on me any day. These days I try to focus on the positive aspects of all of this, for instance, my ex-wife has only one sibling (a brother) and he has no children and it looks like he may never have any. If it hadn't been for this one child that we have, her parents may have never had the chance to have a grandchild. Also, the relationship with my ex-wife helps me to appreciate the relationship that I now have with a wonderful, straight woman. We would never be able to truly enjoy the sunshine if we never experienced a rainy day.
Damon
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